I subscribe to a daily blog by Jerry Del Colliano. It’s a free subscription and No! I’m not being paid to repost this. I am reposting this because I think it affects you and me and everyone else who uses social media. How many times have you read someone’s very personal comments on Facebook, only to be intrigued to go back and ” stalk” or ” creep” on their page to get the backstory.
Guilty! It’s like a soap opera, it’s entertaining, but sometime mortifying. I’m not sure I really want to know that much about people . I sometimes want to post on their page and say ” Let it go!” ” Be the bigger person!” But… I too have been guilty of posting something in the heat of the moment while I was hurt, or mad or upset and wanting to lash out. Yeah, I said it. I’ve said stupid things. You probably have too.
I will have to say though, that if I write it, you can pretty much expect it of me verbally as well. I’m not one to post and then not back it up with a face to face. That sometimes gets me in trouble with people. I’ve never been one to sugarcoat. If you like me, you like me. If you don’t, then there is absolutely NOTHING I can do to change that. I can change the way I interact with you. I can be the better person and smile and be cordial. I don’t have to be friends with you, or hang out with you. It’s called boundaries.
If I carry around a lot of hate and anger towards someone, it’s not hurting THEM, it’s hurting ME. Life is too exhausting to carry around someone elses baggage. So if you’re doing that. Throw it out. Let it go. Haters are gonna hate. They are miserable, hurting people and you are feeding the monster. Stop doing it. You’ll feel better. I promise. I know. Been there, done that. Now let’s get this week started off right by walking to the garbage can and unloading all that crap you’ve been carrying that doesn’t belong to you! Love and Hugs…. Christie.
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Online Rudeness by Jerry Del Colliano
78% of 2,698 people in a VitalSmarts survey report an increase of rudeness online.
Rudeness and insulting behavior are ending friendships and two out of five social media users have cut off contact after an online fight. One in five have reduced face-to-face contact after an online altercation.
Manners lag behind technology and with 67% of online adults now using social media (Pew Study) this is becoming a problem.
Some of the survey respondents said they were still not talking to family members after two years after a fight that resulted from posting an embarrassing photo of a man’s sister when the instigator refused to remove it and in fact sent it to all his contacts for spite.
When people talk about workplace associates on social media, it invariably gets back to the subjects.
There are ways to play nice and play it safe at the same time:
- When you feel a conversation is getting too emotional to be out there online, it’s time to take it face-to-face.
- From VitalSmarts: three rules that could improve conversations online were to avoid monologues, replace lazy, judgmental words, and cut personal attacks particularly when emotions were high.
- Don’t hit send if what you send cannot be read before a jury in a court of law – this one works for me every time because it forces one to think about how a third party might perceive what is being said.
- When it doubt, leave it out.
Increasingly our lives are online and on social media sites, there is no Emily Post yet but there is emerging “netiquette”.
“Everything I think of now is too rude to actually say” – Craig Ferguson